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How To Deal With A Breakup In College?

19 Sep

Although I may not have a masters in psychology, I sure have had my experience with breakups, whether they be my personal break ups, friends or family. It has got to be one of the worst feelings in the world, I know but it could be worse, right? At least you’re in college, and not high school where you will definitely see them every single day. I know it can seem like too much to be juggling your school work and your heartbreak, but the following tips will send you well on your way to healing up that hole.

Take Time Away From That Person

Sounds impossible, doesn’t it? As much as it sucks, this is exactly what needs to be done. You will never fully heal if you are constantly talking to that person, or still seeing them and it will only prolong that horrible feeling of heartache that you are experiencing. Do what you need to do, whether it be deleting them from your bbm, ignorning their phone calls and even filtering their emails to your spam folder. Don’t feel bad, you are your first priority and you need to take this time to get over it. Clean up your place and put away the pictures, jewelry, notes etc. Put it all away. You do not need yet another reminder of that person, as if you don’t already think about them enough, right? I do not suggest throwing them out. Once you heal, they will be good memories. 

Stay Busy

I know it is hard to stay busy. All you want to do is lay in bed, cry and sulk, and that’s quite okay to do… for a day or two. It’s time you get back on your feet! Go out with friends, even though you want to stay at home and drink a bottle of wine (I don’t suggest this!). Watch a movie – nothing romantic. Play video games, or card games with your friends. Go for a walk. Take on more hours at work, join a club, go through that stack of assignments that are due. Do whatever it takes for you to be doing something other then laying around and thinking. It may suck to have to go out, but once you are out, you will be happy you chose to do so. It’s better then laying around crying, right?

Vent Away To Those You Trust

Now I sent vent, not dwell. Spilling out absolutely everything you have on your mind to a good friend or family member will help. Just let it all roll off the tongue and let it all out. If you don’t want to talk to anyone, write it down. One thing that I noticed always helps is writing “them” a letter, telling them everything you wish you could say. The trick? Don’t actually give it to them!

Give It Time

I know it sounds cliche, but time heals the heart. It is said that for every month you were together, it takes one week. So if you were together for a year, it will take 12 weeks to feel 100% again. I know that sounds like a long time, but look forward to the days when you can wake up with a smile on your face, and your heart not in your throat. It will come, just be patient.